I always see posts on social media that say: Stop reaching out to people first and you’ll see who really cares about you. And while I believe that communication should be a two-way street, if it isn’t, it’s also not the end of the world. Most people who suffer, suffer in silence and that friend who always thinks about reaching out but never does, may be suffering and not want anyone to know or be looking for the right moment to tell you. Check in on your friends, not for a favor or to ask them to do something with you. Check in on them to simply see how they are feeling, how life is treating them. Most just want someone to listen and hear them out without being judged. Life can be hard, and with the recent passing of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, we are reminded that no matter how famous you are or how much money you have, you can still suffer from mental illness. It is never too late to or too early to reach out to the friend you have been meaning to call or text, just go for it without expecting something in return.
Lack of motivation can be the most frustrating thing in the world. You want to be productive yet your body is telling you to stay put. Your mind has ideas and plans it wants to accomplish, but the will to get it done just isn’t there. I too, struggle with this and I call it the Lazy Effect. I often wonder if it’s because I am lazy or my body is telling me to rest. I have days where I know I should be more productive than I am but also don’t make the effort to change anything about that. A big part of that comes from the trust I have within myself. Knowing that I can relax for a day or two without being productive and things will be fine lessens the stress I feel. However, it doesn’t stop the guilt. Being lazy is fun at times, yet you end up feeling terrible about yourself in the end. I wonder if we should try to do one productive thing a day or if it’s simply ok to just sit back and do nothing. Sure society makes us feel bad, but if being “lazy” is what’s best for the betterment of our mental stability, maybe we shouldn’t feel stressed after all.
These days, it isn’t uncommon to hear someone speak out on their battle with anxiety or depression. What once seemed to be unspoken words in the public eye, is now more common. It seems as though everyone realized that they’re no longer alone in life and we as humans are more connected than ever. One of the most common connections we share are Anxiety and Depression. Some people self diagnose these disorders while others were diagnosed by a health care professional and are prescribed medication. Because I am seeing and hearing so many people speak up about their battles with anxiety and depression, I couldn’t help but wonder if this is because of the way society is today.
For most, the majority of the day is spent scrolling up and down on social media while our minds run a mile a minute. Because we are exposed to so much at one time, thoughts start to arise. You retweet things you like and like pictures you see. Everything starts to become a blur and before you know it, you realize that the reason for all of this is because we are all seeking validation and attention. Meanwhile, when we don’t get that validation or attention or bodies and minds start to go into a panic. Does nobody like me? Am I not pretty enough? These thoughts turn into Anxiety and for some, Depression that they don’t even know is occurring. Would we even feel this way if we didn’t base our lives on the amount of likes we received? It makes me wonder if our bodies and brains were even conditioned for this way of living.
Conditions that were once sacred and not talked about are now the norm and it seems as though you if you don’t have anxiety or depression, you aren’t normal. The truth is, many of us do have them. The severity varies for everyone. But with the way the society glamorizes suicide it does not make it unrealistic that it is glamorizing anxiety and depression too. Is anxiety and depression a social construct that is now glamorized by society?