Recently, I watched a Ted Talk with Luvvi Ajayi called “Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” It was not my intention to watch this Ted Talk, nor did I personally search for videos on this topic, but the title seemed interesting so I said, why not. After watching the Ted Talk, and listening to everything Luvvi Ajayi said, I could not believe how truthful her words were. What really spoke to me in the Ted Talk, was when Luvvie mentioned how she did not start living her “best life” until she started doing things that she feared. At that moment, I thought about everything that I am or was afraid of doing. I specifically thought about the moments when I had to do things that scared me and how much better I always felt doing those things. For example: Most people’s greatest fear is public speaking, but after you speak out in front of a group of people, you always feel better. Why is that? I thought. Then I remembered. It is because you are relieved. You were able to conquer the thing that you probably over-think, over-analyze, and the one thing that makes you super uncomfortable. Then I thought. What if I started to tackle everything that makes me uncomfortable? So, I made a list of the things that make me the most uncomfortable. This consisted of things like eye contact, eating alone, and traveling alone. Then I thought to myself, what if I did everything on this list and check it off one by one once it is completed. If I started to do what makes me uncomfortable, would it not be a discomfort anymore? That is what I will have to find out. I encourage you to do something that makes you uncomfortable. Document it, reflect on it, and see if it has impacted your life in a positive way.
Societal pressures, due to societal efforts
I am giving and I don’t want to give in
Because I don’t know where that may lead
Will I be alive?
Or remain an outlier.
Life is not clear, or at least not at first.
You go through trials, tribulations and get hurt.
And then question why.
Why am I doing all of this?
Do I have to fit in?
If I’m not successful does that mean I have failed?
That’s all I ever do. But if I learn nothing else I guess I should learn the truth
About me and why I’m here.
My fears and this pressure keep holding me back.
If I’m not something by 25 is this life a waste?
Am I wasting time?
Should I do more?
I feel like I’m losing time.
And if I’m not fulfilling my dreams by 30 I’ve committed a crime that I cannot come back from.
Societal pressures this life keeps giving me
Societal pressures I just want to be free.