Give yourself something

Lately, I have been thinking of more ways to make my life more exciting, I am a person that needs change because it bring excitement. When there is nothing to look forward to, I can get bored so, I look for things that will add something different to my life. I believe you should always make an effort to give yourself something to look forward to. This could be treating yourself to a spa day, buying a new book, getting a new hair-do, or seeing a new movie. Planning different activities that bring you excitement can boost your momentum and make you happy. It also may give you a new hobby, or help you find new interests you didn’t know you would like. Being spontaneous about the activites you choose to do can also bring great pleasure especially thinking your day would be ordinary.  Giving yourself something to look forward to can bring about new changes, so give it a try!

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Positivity and Patience

Positive thoughts can often lead you to having more patience. By changing your thoughts and focusing on bringing in positive energy, you begin to realize that everything will work itself out. This means, that no matter if you’re late, you won’t stress as much because what is meant to be will be and if you trust that you will get to your destination regardless, there is no need to bring in negativity and stress. Positivity can also bring joy. I often try to see the humor in stressful situations, thus making me smile more. This makes me more patient too because I know that by making a light hearted joke, I am more calm. Thinking of the best thst can happen in a situation can bring patience and happiness. Although we like to think negatively when a situation doesn’t work out, thinking more positive can help you to be more at ease.

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Style your fro

One of the many things I love about natural hair, is how versatile it is. Over the past year I have grown to love all of the different hairstyles I am able to achieve. Most recently, I have learned to love my natural afro even more. I find that alot of people don’t like wearing their natural afro because they feel like it doesn’t have as much texture or it looks plain. But, it doesn’t always have to. The best part about the fro, is that you can dress it up or down. Below are some tips to make your fro pop to your perfection!

  1. Add Accessories-you can always add a little more style to your fro by adding clips, pins, flowers, etc.
  2. Add styling creams-If you are looking to add more texture, try adding a style cream to enhance more curls or even adding extra moisture or shine
  3. Add parting-You will be surprised how much of a difference adding a parting space can make to your fro. This can help your fro look more styled than it really is! shhh!
  4. Stretch it out- Afro picks are great for providing extra volume to unstretched hair. Try using an afro pick to achieve more volume and length!
  5. Add color-With summer approaching, adding color to your hair can make it hot or not! Color often makes your curls pop even more, and what better way to make your crown stand out than having it be a different color?

Accept Change

Accepting change is hard. For me, I am one of those people who is content when everything is going the way I planned. I always associated change with being bad, But most recently, I had to learn that change is good. Change whether that be a new job, a new relationship, trying a new food etc can be a learning experience. Learning experiences, can help us grow to be the best versions of ourselves. Change is hard, especially when you are not expecting it. However, we should learn to accept it no matter what because it does not always have to be the enemy.

Anxiety and Depression

These days, it isn’t uncommon to hear someone speak out on their battle with anxiety or depression. What once seemed to be unspoken words in the public eye, is now more common. It seems as though everyone realized that they’re no longer alone in life and we as humans are more connected than ever. One of the most common connections we share are Anxiety and Depression. Some people self diagnose these disorders while others were diagnosed by a health care professional and are prescribed medication. Because I am seeing and hearing so many people speak up about their battles with anxiety and depression, I couldn’t help but wonder if this is because of the way society is today.

For most, the majority of the day is spent scrolling up and down on social media while our minds run a mile a minute. Because we are exposed to so much at one time, thoughts start to arise. You retweet things you like and like pictures you see. Everything starts to become a blur and before you know it, you realize that the reason for all of this is because we are all seeking validation and attention. Meanwhile, when we don’t get that validation or attention or bodies and minds start to go into a panic. Does nobody like me? Am I not pretty enough? These thoughts turn into Anxiety and for some, Depression that they don’t even know is occurring. Would we even feel this way if we didn’t base our lives on the amount of likes we received? It makes me wonder if our bodies and brains were even conditioned for this way of living.

Conditions that were once sacred and not talked about are now the norm and it seems as though you if you don’t have anxiety or depression, you aren’t normal. The truth is, many of us do have them. The severity varies for everyone. But with the way the society glamorizes suicide it does not make it unrealistic that it is glamorizing anxiety and depression too. Is anxiety and depression a social construct that is now glamorized by society?

Do All Men Cheat?

If this has never been a more pressing and common topic before, it seems as though in 2018 it has become the most important topic ever. Do all men cheat? Yes, that is the question. With social media and blogs following celebrities every moves, it seems as though we are always waiting for one celebrity to cheat on their significant other. But the fact of the matter is that celebrities make up a very small portion of our world. We generalize things based on what we see, but is it actually true? Do all men cheat? Some women believe this theory. That men like to have their cake and eat it too and that they all cheat at least once in their lifetime. Others believe that there are still faithful men out there. I believe that by believing that all men cheat, you are already putting disappointment in your heart. It is like you are already expecting to be let down when you should never be afraid to have high expectations. Do I believe all men cheat? Absolutely not. But for those that do, know that the their are approximately 101.8 men for every 100 women. Generalizing all men as cheaters is a negative approach to the way you look at men and you can’t expect to be in a healthy relationship if you are expecting your significant other to walk out on you. Cheating, should never be justified from a man or a woman, but if we all think positive, positive actions will follow.